Posted by: frroberts | November 16, 2015

Interesting Article: “No one is born gay”

One question from that day has haunted me ever since. I took that index card home with me and I’ve often picked it up, looked at it, and then prayed for the person who asked it.

It is in my hands now.

It starts with “if,” followed by “you”: the beginning of a question. But the “you” is scratched out in a flourish of circles, replaced by “I”.

This question isn’t hypothetical. It’s personal. It’s about him—or her. I don’t know if it’s a boy or a girl.

The question goes, “If I feel attracted to the same sex, does that mean I’m gay?”

I thank God I was there.

“No,” I said. “No! Despite what you may see on TV, or hear at school, feeling attracted to the same sex doesn’t mean you’re gay. In fact, it doesn’t mean anything at all about who you are!”

I then shared the story of a woman I once met who is now in her seventies. She has been happily married for years and has many children and grandchildren.

“When she was a teenager,” I told them, “she had a crush on one of the girls in her class. They became quite good friends, and even for a time ‘messed around’ together. As a good Catholic, she confessed and was forgiven. But she had the good fortune to grow up in an age which didn’t trap her into thinking those feelings defined her in anyway. She never once asked the question, ‘does this mean I’m gay?’, because she grew up never having heard of any sort of sexuality other than being a girl.”

I told them, “Though today’s culture tells us that our feelings are what define our sexuality most reliably, the Church wisely tells us that the truth of our sexuality is revealed to us by God, through our bodies.”

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